Most of the time when we complain about being heartbroken. And, we are quick to point figures, we won't realise our mistakes.
Every relationship involves two persons; the both of you played a role.
The best way to learn from our mistakes is to have a thorough self-evaluation. Ask yourself questions. Ask God also. The Holy Spirit will reveal things to you.
You will be able to realise the things you did wrongly, and to avoid repeating same mistakes.
Personally, if God reveal certain things about my would-be spouse to me. And, it seems that person isn't working in that direction that would make that revelation come to pass. I would try to look for an avenue I feel will make the person act in that way. While doing that, I can put up some attitude just to ensure the person get on that track.
But, I realized I was doing things wrongly. I came to a realization that I don't have to place pressure on my man to do those things with my attitude. The best thing to do is to go back to the one who revealed those things to compel him by communicating with my knees.
One thing you can give to a man is Peace. Just let him do his thing. Provided that, it's not something that would lead him to destruction. As women, we desire the best for our man. But, wisdom requires you also let him be a Man. Even if it seems he's acting slow or not doing things right because of the revelation you have about Him, don't fight it with Him. Don't put up attitude. Just let him be. Talk to God about it. Then, commit his heart to God before thinking of a best way to present the issue again.
Sisters, you don't present some issues to a man on phone ooo. This is one big lesson I've learned. Even if you have fears about certain things regarding him, his family, or the relationship. Some discussion are best handled through face-to-face interaction.
Let a man be a MAN. Be a WOMAN! And, I assure you that your relationship will be beautiful.😊😘
Men… please, stop the silent treatment. That attitude is draining. A man can end a relationship within him five months ago and still be with the lady. He won't say anything. He will just go off suddenly one day. Uncle, relationship isn't a do or die affair. Tell things to her, not your friends and families. Some issues in relationships could have been sorted if families and friends were not involved.
Most importantly, have a spiritual mentor. Someone you and your would-be spouse can always talk to. Let God guide you to know who should occupy this position. He or she should be someone both of you can submit to and will also be accountable to. This person shouldn't be any member of both families. Many promising relationships have been saved from getting broken through a Mentor.
In all… Learn, unlearn and relearn. That's the best way to live.
To your relationship success.