To avoid wasting time over FRIVOLITIES, know what you want and go for it.
Sister, if you want a career man with a white collar job; the type that is always on suit, looking dapper. Please, go for what you want. Provided that, he aligns with God's will for your life. Don't go after a man who has the call of God upon his life and want to be in Ministry thinking you can change him. That's evil.
Uncle, if you don't want your wife to work, then choose someone who doesn't want to work. Don't marry a lady with career ambitions, and force her to sit home hoping she change one day. That's witchcraft.
The major reason for issues in marriage today is because we want to change people into who they are not. You can't force your opinion on people, and expect them to be happy. It's not possible.
Know what you want. Ask God if it aligns with His will for you. Go for it. Stop trying to force people into who/what they don't want to be.
To your relationship success.