NORMALIZE RECEIVING COMPLIMENTS; NOT EVERYONE HAS AN ULTERIOR MOTIVE
Many singles (especially ladies) have missed amazing men due to the state of their mind. Once a man compliments them, different thoughts start running through their mind; “he likes me,” “he's a flirt,” “he's not even as spiritual as I thought.”..
Haa! Aunty be “calming down” naa😄😄😄
This is the same way a lady tagged a gentleman a cheat. The man was always complimenting her dressing and looks whenever she arrives at the office. Unknown to her, he behaves in that manner with everyone. Aunty was already thinking of wedding date and colour for the day.
You needed to see how astonished she was when he gave her the invite to his wedding. She began to tell everyone he's a cheat and betrayed her. A man that never asked her out. He doesn't even know much about her apart from the work-relationship they shared.
Men aren't excluded either. The moment a lady starts complimenting you, you're already thinking of how to get at her, thinking she's cheap, telling your friends; “She's giving me green lights.” Can you please be calm?
Sometimes, when people tell me they are jilted, I realized they were actually in a relationship with themselves. The other person isn't even aware.
When you feel someone is passing across a signal to you... kindly, use tactics to ask questions; “Do you have any emotional feelings towards me? Are we in a relationship? Do you desire to have a relationship with me? Is there more to our friendship?” Know what's on their mind. Do not assume. You may be wrong.
And, the annoying thing is, people are now being careful to give compliments to avoid being misinterpreted. And, we all love to be complimented (not necessarily Every time, but we do), don't try hiding from the truth.
Aunty, when you're complimented, a simple “thank you” is fine. Stop being suspicious about every compliment. Desist from receiving physical compliments with a frown on your face. Stop it! Smile... You'll not die.😉😊
P.S: This write up is not to justify that all compliments are sincere. No! But, have a mindset that sees being complimented as a norm. However, once you discern or sense a compliment is with an ulterior motive, and you are not interested, do the needful.
And, Yes... I know the picture is beautiful😋Woman Crush Wednesday.😋😊🥰
To your relationship success.